Foreword |
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xi | (2) |
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Preface |
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xiii | (2) |
Acknowledgments |
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Chapter 1. The Congregation As a Family System |
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1 | (20) |
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2 | (4) |
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6 | (3) |
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9 | (2) |
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The Religious Institution As a Family System |
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11 | (3) |
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The Congregation As a Marriage |
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14 | (4) |
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18 | (3) |
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Chapter 2. The Illusion of Eden and the Fortified City |
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21 | (12) |
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A Lack of Emotional Nourishment and the Hunger to Be Filled |
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21 | (3) |
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Faith, Belief, Trust, Commitment, and the Hope of Security |
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24 | (2) |
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26 | (2) |
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The Fortified City: The Public Face of Prosperity That Hides the Private Face of Poverty |
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28 | (3) |
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God in the Garden: The Idolization of the Spiritual Leader |
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31 | (1) |
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32 | (1) |
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Chapter 3. God Transference, the Good Object, and the Makeup of Ministers |
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33 | (14) |
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God Transference and the Good Object |
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34 | (2) |
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36 | (9) |
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45 | (2) |
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Chapter 4. Mirroring God: Clergy in Relationship |
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47 | (12) |
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47 | (3) |
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50 | (6) |
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56 | (3) |
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Chapter 5. The Issue of Clergy Sexual Misconduct |
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59 | (14) |
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Sexual Harassment and Sexual Abuse |
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59 | (4) |
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The Issue of Power: Abandonment, Authority, and Animal Force |
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63 | (2) |
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How It Happens: Misconduct from the Part of the Perpetrator |
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65 | (7) |
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72 | (1) |
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Chapter 6. Vulnerability and the Psychology of the Victim |
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73 | (12) |
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How the Primary Victim Becomes Involved |
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73 | (4) |
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Why the Victim Doesn't Disclose |
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77 | (3) |
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80 | (1) |
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81 | (1) |
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82 | (1) |
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83 | (2) |
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Chapter 7. The Scapegoat As the Bearer of Evil |
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85 | (16) |
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87 | (3) |
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Scapegoating in Communities |
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90 | (3) |
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Scapegoating in Congregations |
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93 | (3) |
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The Price They Pay: The Destructive Effects of Scapegoating |
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96 | (3) |
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99 | (2) |
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Chapter 8. Untold Tales and Skeletons in the Closet |
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101 | (20) |
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101 | (4) |
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Institutional Patterns and the Painful Footprints of a Secret |
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105 | (12) |
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Incestuous Systems and Collegial Collaboration in the Service of the Secret |
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117 | (1) |
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118 | (3) |
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Chapter 9. The Case of Hope Church |
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121 | (24) |
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The History of Hope Church |
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122 | (12) |
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An Analysis of Behavioral Patterns |
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134 | (11) |
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Chapter 10. Reowning Responsibility |
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145 | (22) |
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145 | (1) |
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Ethical Behavior and Ethical Systems |
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146 | (1) |
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An Ethic of Responsibility |
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146 | (1) |
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147 | (1) |
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The Role of Consultants in Reowning Responsibility |
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148 | (7) |
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Reowning Responsibility Through Preventative Maintenance |
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155 | (1) |
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Reowning Responsibility by Creating Boundaries |
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156 | (5) |
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Reowning Responsibility Through Proactive Clergy Training |
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161 | (3) |
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164 | (3) |
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Chapter 11. Postscript: Becoming a Functional Spiritual Family |
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167 | (6) |
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The Creation of Holy Space |
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167 | (1) |
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The Preservation of Tradition |
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168 | (1) |
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The Creation and Maintenance of Ethical Community |
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168 | (1) |
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Developing and Nurturing a Sense of Mission |
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168 | (1) |
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Enabling an Experience of God |
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169 | (1) |
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The Changing Face of Religious Institutions |
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169 | (4) |
Appendix. Clinical Presentation of Survivors of Sexual Abuse |
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173 | (2) |
Notes |
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175 | (8) |
Glossary |
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183 | (6) |
Index |
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