Acknowledgments |
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Preface |
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PART I: INTRODUCTION-WHY I AM INTERESTED IN FORGIVENESS |
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Chapter 1. The Dilemma: How Could I Forgive a Friend Who Betrayed Me? |
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PART II: OFFENSES-THE WAYS IN WHICH WE ARE HURT |
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Chapter 2. Offenses Against Freedom: My Choices Are Limited |
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Chapter 3. Offenses Against Self-Esteem: I Feel Humiliated |
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Chapter 4. Offenses Against Intimacy: I Have Been Betrayed |
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PART III: TRYING TO TAKE CHARGE-WHAT CONSTITUTES FORGIVENESS |
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Chapter 5. What About Revenge? |
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Chapter 6. Is an Apology Necessary? |
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PART IV: LAYING THE FOUNDATIONS |
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Chapter 8. How I Create My Inner World |
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Chapter 9. One Example: Terry Dobson's Story |
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Chapter 10. The Many Facets of Who I Am |
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Chapter 11. One Example: Simon Wiesenthal's Story |
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PART V: MAKING IT HAPPEN |
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Chapter 12. Forgiving Offenses Against Freedom |
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Chapter 13. Forgiving Offenses Against Self-Esteem |
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Chapter 14. Forgiving Offenses Against Intimacy |
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PART VI: CONCLUSIONS |
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Chapter 15. Pulling It All Together |
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Chapter 16. Is Reconciliation Necessary? |
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Chapter 17. Forgiving Myself: Forgiving the Person I Used to Be |
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Chapter 18. Painting Lessons |
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Epilogue |
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Appendix A. Handling the Accusation of Incest |
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Appendix B. Kinds of Offenses |
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Bibliographic Essay |
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References |
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